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Što je realno Self-love?

Između modernog mita i istine tijela — slušanje umjesto gledanja

U dobu nove, komercijalne mitologije, moderna skripta uvjerava nas da je self-love proizvod koji možemo kupiti — topla kupka, skupa kava, estetski savršena maska za lice ili vikend bijeg od stvarnosti. Život postaje svojevrsni board game u kojem skupljamo trenutke ugode kao bodove.





Poput antičkog Narcisa, vodilja postaje zaljubljivanje u prvi dojam vlastitog odraza na površini vode. Učimo kako izgledati sretno, kako pozirati, kako izgraditi besprijekornu vanjsku konstrukciju. Gledamo se — ali se ne čujemo.




No, što kada taj površinski odraz pukne — ili ga počne razbijati susret? Susret sa sobom, s drugim osobama ili s argentinskim tangom.




Tada se razotkriva krhkost identiteta izgrađenog na slici ne-postajanja. U susretu s vlastitim i drugim tijelom, u nepredvidivosti odnosa i ritma, vanjska konstrukcija puca — i više nije dovoljna.






Tijelo ne komunicira kroz estetiku ni kroz unaprijed zadanu skriptu slike — bez boje, u ravnim linijama, bez sinkopa živoga. Ono govori istinom: kroz napetost, nesigurnost, dah, težinu i prisutnost. Jedan korak. Jedna stepenica.





U tom prostoru više ne možemo “izgledati” dobro. Možemo samo biti u kontaktu — ili ne. I upravo tu počinje stvarni self-love: ne kao slika koju održavamo, nego kao sposobnost da slušamo ono što se u nama zaista događa — i u našoj okolini.

Unutarnje i vanjske kontaktne površine: Gdje slika postaje dodir

Stvarni self-love ne počinje u zrcalu, već u kontaktu — na i kroz naše kontaktne površine, u prostoru gdje se kretanje i bivanje susreću sa stvarnošću sadašnjeg trenutka.







To su mjesta na kojima naše tijelo susreće fiziku stvarnosti i bivanje, a zablude i nemir se stišavaju.

• Naša prva kontaktna površina je oslonac — dodir stopala i poda. Kada pažnju spustimo u taj kontakt, um prestaje skakati. Pod ne reagira na našu sliku o sebi; on nas drži, uzemljuje i vraća u neposrednu prisutnost.

• Naša druga kontaktna površina je proprioceptivni osjet — odnos noge uz nogu, duboka percepcija mišića, tkiva i fascija u mirovanju i kretanju. To je mikroarhitektura tijela koja pulsira ispod kože. Kada uđemo u taj unutarnji prostor, pokret više ne kontroliramo vizualno; doživljavamo ga kroz vlastitu gustoću. Tu se iluzije savršenstva razgrađuju, a pojavljuju se prisutnost i prihvaćanje suživota bivanja.

• Treća kontaktna površina je ona koju dijelimo s drugom osobom – prostor dodira. Kada se dvije pulsirajuće površine susretnu, vizualni oklop nestaje. Ako nismo prisutni na svojoj unutarnjoj površini, dodir ne postoji — on je slika bez okvira. No, kada osjetimo svoje tijelo točno tamo gdje se nalazi u trenutku sada, zajednička površina postaje medij suosjećajne sinkronizacije.

„Tango počinje ondje gdje prestaje kontrola i započinje slušanje — sebe i drugoga. Tamo tijelo više ne traži oblik, nego osjet — i napokon postajemo.” - Jelena Somogyi

🇬🇧What Is Real Self-Love?

Between Modern Myth and the Truth of the Body — Listening Instead of Looking

In the era of a new, commercial mythology, the modern script convinces us that self-love is a product we can buy—a warm bath, an expensive coffee, an aesthetically perfect face mask, or a weekend escape from reality. Life becomes a kind of board game in which we collect moments of pleasure like points.





Like the ancient Narcissus, our guiding force becomes a fascination with the first impression of our own reflection on the surface of the water. We learn how to look happy, how to pose, how to build a flawless external construction. We look at ourselves—but we do not hear ourselves.






But what happens when that surface reflection cracks—or begins to be shattered by an encounter? An encounter with ourselves, with others, or with Argentine tango.





That is when the fragility of an identity built on the image of non-becoming is revealed. In the encounter with our own body and another’s, in the unpredictability of relationship and rhythm, the external construction cracks—and is no longer enough.





The body does not communicate through aesthetics or through a prewritten script of an image—colorless, linear, stripped of the syncopations of the living. It speaks truth: through tension, uncertainty, breath, weight, and presence. One step. One stair.






In that space, we can no longer “look” good. We can only be in contact—or not. And this is where real self-love begins: not as an image we maintain, but as the capacity to listen to what is truly happening within us—and in our surroundings.

👣 Internal and External Contact Surfaces: Where Image Becomes Touch

Real self-love does not begin in the mirror, but in contact—on and through our contact surfaces, in the space where movement and being meet the reality of the present moment.





These are the places where the body meets the physics of reality and existence, and where delusion and restlessness begin to quiet.






Our first contact surface is support—the meeting of the foot and the floor. When we drop our attention into that contact, the mind stops jumping. The floor does not respond to our self-image; it simply holds us, grounds us, and returns us to immediate presence.

Our second contact surface is proprioception—the relationship of leg to leg, the deep sensing of muscles, tissues, and fascia in stillness and in motion. This is the micro-architecture of the body, pulsating beneath the skin. When we enter this internal space, we no longer control movement visually; we experience it through our own density. Here, illusions of perfection dissolve, and presence and the acceptance of being begin to emerge.

The third contact surface is the one we share with another—the space of touch. When two pulsating surfaces meet, the visual armor dissolves. If we are not present within our own internal surface, touch does not exist—it becomes an image without a frame. But when we feel our body exactly where it is, in the present moment, the shared surface becomes a medium of compassionate synchronization.



“Tango begins where control ends and listening begins—to oneself and to the other. There, the body no longer seeks form, but sensation—and we finally become.” - Jelena Somogyi


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Identitet između konstrukcije i dekonstrukcije: bivanje u trenutku sada

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🇭🇷 Identitet između konstrukcije i dekonstrukcije: bivanje u trenutku sada

Tko čini prvu kretnju, rađa prvu misao i osjeća prvu potrebu?

U prvom trenutku buđenja, prije nego što posegnemo za mobitelom ili rokovnikom, potpuno smo dekonstruirani. Nema titula, nema uloga, nema društvenih skripti. Postoji samo čisti dah, pritisak tijela o madrac i goli osjećaj postojanja.

S prvim pokretom i kretnjom mi smo u trenutku sada. No, već s prvim korakom iz kreveta, naš um počinje skakati. Obaveze, planovi, strahovi i očekivanja stvaraju golemu konstrukciju onoga što mislimo da moramo biti kako bismo proživjeli dan i vrijedili.

Udahom, spoznajom za mir i voljom za osmjehom otvaramo prozore i vrata mogućnostima suživota bivanja, temeljima.

Teret konstrukcije kroz dan

S tim teškim oklopom i nemirnim umom sjedamo uz prvu čašu vode ili prvu jutarnju kavu.

Dolazimo na posao, a na kraju i na aktivnosti. Pokušavamo funkcionirati kroz konstrukcije koje smo sami izgradili ili koje su nam nametnute.

No, tango i život ne trpe konstrukcije. Naše tijelo i um pod tim pritiskom postaju kruti i lako lomljivi. Um zatrpan kalkulacijama i analizama koraka gubi kontakt s podlogom, a time i s vlastitom bîti.

Dekonstrukcija i rekonstrukcija za trenutak sada

Tango je povratak upravo na ono jutarnje, ogoljeno stanje. On zahtijeva potpunu dekonstrukciju, a potom i rekonstrukciju – skidanje slojeva lažne sigurnosti i društvenih maski.

Kroz svjesni oslonac stopala o pod i puls daha koji se širi kroz zdjelicu, mi se ljuštimo od svega suvišnog. Vraćamo se onoj prvoj, iskonskoj kretnji. Tek tada, kada um umiri svoje skokove i spusti se u tijelo, ostvarujemo čisto bivanje u trenutku sada.

Kada se konstrukcija otpusti, a dekonstrukcija nas ogoli do onoga što uistinu jesmo, naši se unutarnji zupčanici ponovno usklađuju u ritmu suosjećajne sinkronizacije. Tada više ne igramo uloge. 

Postajemo pokret. 

Postajemo život. 

Otvorenih očiju i slobodnog daha.

“Tango je povratak upravo na ono jutarnje, ogoljeno stanje.”

🇬🇧 Identity Between Construction and Deconstruction: Being in the Present Moment

Who makes the first movement, gives birth to the first thought, and feels the first need?

In the first moment of waking, before we reach for the phone or planner, we are completely deconstructed. There are no titles, no roles, no social scripts. There is only pure breath, the pressure of the body against the mattress, and the bare feeling of existence.

With the first movement and gesture, we are in the present moment. But already with the first step out of bed, our mind begins to jump. Obligations, plans, fears, and expectations create a vast construction of what we think we must be in order to live through the day and have value.

With a breath, an awareness for peace, and the will for a smile, we open windows and doors to the possibilities of coexistence of being, to the foundations.

The Burden of Construction Through the Day

With this heavy armor and restless mind, we sit with our first glass of water or first morning coffee. We arrive at work, and eventually at our activities. We try to function through constructions we have built ourselves or that have been imposed on us.

But tango and life do not tolerate constructions. Our body and mind, under this pressure, become rigid and easily breakable. A mind burdened with calculations and analysis of steps loses contact with the ground, and with it, with its own essence.

Deconstruction and Reconstruction for the Present Moment

Tango is a return precisely to that morning, stripped state. It requires complete deconstruction, and then reconstruction — the removal of layers of false security and social masks.

Through conscious support of the foot on the ground and the pulse of breath spreading through the pelvis, we peel away everything unnecessary. We return to that first, primordial movement.

Only then, when the mind calms its jumps and descends into the body, do we achieve pure being in the present moment.

When construction is released, and deconstruction strips us down to what we truly are, our inner gears realign in the rhythm of compassionate synchronization.

Then we no longer play roles.
We become movement.
We become life.
With open eyes and free breath.

“Tango returns us to that original, unmasked morning state.”

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Suosjećajni ritam: Komunikacija kroz korijenje tijela i uma

Kada upisujemo ples, naša su glava i rokovnici prepuni tehničkih pitanja i velikih očekivanja. Kada ću proplesati? Kako točno trebam izvesti korak?  Koliko mi mjeseci ili godina treba da budem dobar? S kim ću plesati, koji je čarobni recept i koliko će me to na kraju novaca koštati?

S tim nemirnim umom dolazimo na podij, donoseći sa sobom sve prekinute misli, nagle skokove između prošlosti i budućnosti, te težinu neostvarenih planova iz svakodnevnog života. Tražimo brzu formulu i mehanički recept, no istinska transformacija ne dolazi iz kalkulacija u glavi. Ona dolazi iz samog korijena našeg tijela, kroz disanje i način na koji naša stopala dodiruju tlo.

Mehanički satovi smješteni jedan pokraj drugoga s vremenom se spontano usklađuju. Poticaj na to usklađivanje dolazi kroz prijenos sitnih mehaničkih vibracija kroz podlogu na kojoj oni stoje. Ovaj fascinantni fizikalni fenomen naziva se Huygensova sinkronizacija (ili suosjećajni ritam).

Na isti način, ovaj se fenomen događa unutar našeg vlastitog tijela kroz svjesno kretanje. Naša osobna tjelesna prisutnost, uz ostvarenje taktilnih površina kroz kretanje noge uz nogu i stopala uz stopalo, spontano usklađuje naše tjelesno, motoričko i mentalno postojanje. Taj neposredni fizički kontakt vlastitih nogu postaje podloga kroz koju sabiremo sebe.

Korijen te tjelesne prisutnosti i glavno uzemljenje izviru iz samog centra tijela – iz zdjelice. Ona je glavni izvor svake kretnje i hvatište gravitacije, no da bi se ta snaga ostvarila, potreban je svjesni pritisak u pod. Taj pritisak nije krut; on se rađa i pulsira kroz ritam našeg disanja. Dah je taj koji povezuje naš centar s podlogom, dajući pokretu fluidnost. Tek kada aktivno i svjesno potisnemo podlogu pod sobom uz podršku vlastitog daha, energija iz centra dobiva svoj stabilan oslonac.

Iz tog pritiska rađa se povratna sila. Pod nam uzvraća istom onom snagom kojom smo ga pritisnuli, gurajući nas prema gore, izdužujući našu kralježnicu i dajući nam stabilnost. Ta povratna sila poda postaje naša stvarna potpora, fizički dokaz da smo uzemljeni.

Sve to vodi do potpunog ostvarenja svjesnosti pokreta i kretanja. Pokret se događa i dok stojimo na mjestu – on nikada nije pasivan, to je unutarnji rad, tonus i skupljanje energije iz poda. Kretanje je tek korak dalje: aktivno korištenje tog unutarnjeg pokreta za putovanje kroz prostor.

Upravo u tom prividnom mirovanju, dok se događa čisti unutarnji pokret, um pronalazi svoje usklađivanje. Kada tijelo miruje na mjestu, a energija unutar njega aktivno radi, um više nema prostora za lutanje. On se spušta u centar tijela, usmjerava na pritisak poda i postaje potpuno prisutan u tom nečujnom, unutarnjem ritmu.

Taj pritisak u pod i svjesni ritam udisaja i izdisaja konačno smiruju i usklađuju naš um uz sve vanjske i unutarnje oluje: uz promjene boja, vremenskih utjecaja, prekinutih misli, komunikacija i svakodnevnih okolnosti. Usred naglih skokova između prošlosti, sadašnjosti i budućnosti, te tereta neostvarenosti koji često nosimo sa sobom, ovaj nas unutarnji rad drži čvrsto na zemlji. To je trenutak u kojem se misli stišavaju, a um se savršeno sinkronizira s fizičkim postojanjem.

U tom prijelazu događa se ključni trenutak: um konačno prestaje razmišljati o koracima, tehnikama i pravilima. Nestaje potreba za kontrolom. Um jednostavno postaje prisutan u tom čistom ritmu vlastitog tijela i poda. Više ne analiziramo pokret, već postajemo pokret.

Ta tišina u glavi i tijelu omogućuje nam da osjetimo svaki milimetar poda i svaki suptilni prijenos težine, pretvarajući ples iz mehaničkog izvođenja u čisto bivanje. Tek u tom trenutku, kada smo potpuno sabrani unutar sebe, otvaraju nam se i vrata svjesnosti okoline.

Kroz ta otvorena vrata više ne primjećujemo okolinu kao vanjski šum ili smetnju; prostor oko nas, glazba koja ispunjava zrak i drugi ljudi koji dijele taj isti podij postaju dio našeg vlastitog polja svjesnosti. Čujemo nijanse u glazbi koje prije nismo hvatali i osjećamo geometriju prostora oko sebe.

Tek tada, kada je naš unutarnji mehanizam potpuno usklađen i smiren, spremni smo za povratak na pravu Huygensovu sinkronizaciju. Pod više nije samo naš oslonac, već postaje zajednički medij. Naše mikrovibracije, naš ritam disanja i pritisak koji šaljemo u podlogu počinju suosjećajno rezonirati s okolinom. Postajemo sat koji je spreman uhvatiti ritam cjeline, jer smo napokon posložili vlastite zupčanike.

Iz tog pritiska i uzemljenja, svako kretanje, svako trljanje noge uz nogu i stopala uz stopalo postaje prirodna posljedica našeg unutarnjeg poravnanja.

„U onom trenutku kada prestanemo razmišljati o koracima i analizi pokreta, postajemo pokret i bivanje. Tada ples iz mehaničkog izvođenja prelazi u čisto bivanje. GPS kontaktne površine i korijen tjelesne prisutnosti. ✨️

🇬🇧 Sympathetic Rhythm: Communication Through the Roots of Body and Mind

When we sign up for dance, our minds and schedules are flooded with technical questions and high expectations. When will I start dancing well? How exactly should I execute the step? How many months or years does it take to get good? Who will I dance with, what is the magic recipe, and how much money will it ultimately cost me?

With this restless mind, we step onto the floor, bringing along all our fragmented thoughts, sudden leaps between past and future, and the weight of unfulfilled plans from daily life. We look for a quick formula and a mechanical recipe, yet true transformation does not come from calculations in the head. It comes from the very root of our body, through breathing and the way our feet touch the ground.

Mechanical clocks placed next to one another spontaneously synchronize over time. The impulse for this alignment comes through the transmission of tiny mechanical vibrations through the surface on which they stand. This fascinating physical phenomenon is known as Huygens' synchronization (or sympathetic rhythm).

In the exact same way, this phenomenon occurs within our own body through conscious movement. Our personal bodily presence, combined with the realization of tactile surfaces as leg moves against leg and foot against foot, spontaneously synchronizes our physical, motor, and mental existence. This direct physical contact of our own legs becomes the ground through which we gather ourselves.

The root of this bodily presence and our primary grounding originate from the very center of the body – the pelvis. It is the main source of every movement and the anchor for gravity, but for this power to be realized, a conscious pressure into the floor is required. This pressure is not rigid; it is born and pulses through the rhythm of our breathing. Breath is what connects our center to the surface, giving fluidity to the movement. Only when we actively and consciously press the ground beneath us, supported by our own breath, does the energy from the center gain its stable foundation.

From this pressure, a ground reaction force is born. The floor returns the exact same power with which we pressed it, pushing us upward, lengthening our spine, and giving us stability. This return force of the floor becomes our true support, a physical proof that we are grounded.All of this leads to the full realization of the awareness of movement and motion. Movement happens even when we stand still – it is never passive; it is internal work, muscle tone, and the gathering of energy from the floor. Motion is just a step further: the active use of that internal movement to travel through space.

It is precisely in this apparent stillness, while pure internal movement takes place, that the mind finds its synchronization. When the body rests in place, yet the energy within it is actively working, the mind no longer has room to wander. It drops into the center of the body, focuses on the pressure of the floor, and becomes completely present in that silent, internal rhythm.

This pressure into the floor and the conscious rhythm of inhalation and exhalation finally calm and align our mind amidst all external and internal storms: along with changes in colors, weather influences, interrupted thoughts, communications, and daily circumstances. Amidst sudden leaps between past, present, and future, and the burden of unfulfillment we often carry with us, this internal work keeps us firmly grounded. It is a moment in which thoughts quiet down, and the mind perfectly synchronizes with physical existence.

In this transition, a pivotal moment occurs: the mind finally stops thinking about steps, techniques, and rules. The need for control vanishes. The mind simply becomes present in that pure rhythm of one's own body and the floor. We no longer analyze the movement; we become the movement.

This silence in the head and body allows us to feel every millimeter of the floor and every subtle transfer of weight, transforming dance from a mechanical performance into pure being. Only at that moment, when we are completely gathered within ourselves, do the doors to the awareness of our surroundings open.

Through these open doors, we no longer perceive our surroundings as external noise or a distraction; the space around us, the music filling the air, and the other people sharing that same floor become part of our own field of awareness. We hear nuances in the music we couldn't catch before and feel the geometry of the space around us.

Only then, when our internal mechanism is fully aligned and calmed, are we ready to return to true Huygens' synchronization. The floor is no longer just our support; it becomes a shared medium. Our micro-vibrations, our breathing rhythm, and the pressure we send into the ground begin to sympathetically resonate with the environment. We become a clock ready to catch the rhythm of the whole, because we have finally aligned our own gears.

From this pressure and grounding, every motion, every brushing of leg against leg and foot against foot becomes a natural consequence of our internal alignment.

“The moment we stop thinking about steps and analyzing movement, we become movement and being. That is when dance transitions from a mechanical performance into pure being. The GPS of contact surfaces and the root of bodily presence. 🌿

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